Monday, June 4, 2012

Sex (Appeal) in the City


I believe that in the same way someone can be attracted to a person, they can be attracted to a place. And in the same way one can’t be held accountable or necessarily even explain why they are attracted to a person, sometimes you have a hard time figuring out why you’re drawn to a place. This “city sex appeal” happened to me in Amsterdam. It’s partially because of this immediate infatuation that I haven’t yet blogged about my trip to Amsterdam, despite the fact that it’s one of the first places I visited in Europe.

Believe it or not, Amsterdam’s sex appeal (for me) has nothing to do with its reputation for weed and prostitution. I’ve never understood why this is such a big deal for Amsterdam, considering you can easily find both of these things elsewhere in the world. To me, they have little to do with the unique personality of Amsterdam and anyone who doesn’t look past the sex and the drugs is missing something essential about the city.

“So, Innocent Bystander, what is it about Amsterdam that captures your imagination?” you ask.

Not an easy question to answer, but I’m sure a lot of it has to do with a book I read as a freshman in high school. Postcards from No Man’s Land by Aiden Chambers. I’m sure very few of my readers have read this book. It’s not a spectacular work of fiction by any means, but it has a lot of heart in that little-league-baseball kind of way.  And its loving descriptions of Amsterdam from the point of view of a troubled teen spoke to my inner traveler while I struggled with the complications of high school life. I must have read that book seven or eight times, imagining myself within the plot and wondering if I'd ever have the chance to have such an amazing time of self-discovery.

It’s rare that our visualizations of an experience or place match the reality. And yet, my weekend in Amsterdam was what little kids experience when they go to Disneyland: the city was exactly how I imagined it. The spider web of streets and canals, the maniac cyclists, the bigger-than-your-head pancakes, the drifting house boats, the intimate rows of “regular” houses, the English speaking residents who don’t hold a foreigner’s status against them…The list goes on.

More than any of these aspects, I was most affected by the strange feeling of acceptance the city’s extreme tolerance produces. Obviously there are drawbacks to this open-mindedness, but the city’s experience with the Nazi occupation doubtless convinced the citizens of the benefits of tolerance. However, it’s important to realize that Amsterdam is not a city of hippies. Our tour guide emphasized Amsterdam’s insistence that tolerance be given if it is beneficial to their economy. And Amsterdam is not poor. I quite like this concept; it seems like a good balance of idealism and practicality.

But what do I know? I only spent three days in this place and like any passionate fling, I’m bound to inflate the good or exciting qualities and romanticize the flaws. Such is the gift and the curse of memory.

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